Everyone approaches parenting in their own way.
But what happens when you disagree with what someone is doing? Or, are you even worried that it may be a harmful line?
A woman is seeking people’s advice after her brother’s baby baby and was worried about what happened.
Posting in a group of parents, she explained that she was taking care of her six -year -old nephew, while her brother and sister -in -law came out for dinner.
When they were playing, the little boy broke a glass figurine. He immediately exploded in tears and begged his aunt not to tell his mother, saying he would be given “quiet time”.
“I asked what meant ‘quiet time,” and [he] Explained that when he is mistaken, he is kneeling in front of a wall for an hour, sometimes longer if he cries or moves. If he speaks, she adds more time. “
She said she was “shocked” by this admission and decided to have a private conversation with her brother. Apparently, her brother defended their actions and said his son was “dramatic”.
Not satisfied with this, the aunt followed her directly with her Sil, saying she was worried that the punishment could be “abusive”.
“She was completely withdrawn, saying I had no right to ask her parents when I have no children,” OP wrote.
“She accused me of trying to sabotage their relationships and distort a child’s words.”
Now, the family is shared on how to deal with the fractures, with their parents who believe their son owes them to forgive.
“If it’s for an hour – report it”
According to the Australian Institute of Family Studies, the obligation of a child to kneel in unpleasant positions could be considered abuse. However, just like what is happening in this situation, there are different attitudes for what can be considered harmful and “reasonable and acceptable” for discipline.
People who commented on the post were quick to highlight this, as well as their concern about the boy’s response to a simple mistake.
“One hour on my knees?!?! As a mother himself, I’m terrified. Also, he accidentally broke something and started crying because he was scared of his mother,” noted one.
OP agreed, saying that “broke her heart” to see his concern.
“I too were shocked when [he] explained it … I’m still trying to figure out how to stay involved in his life. “
Another suggested exactly the explanation of how long the punishment could last, as the “perception of the time” of children could be slightly distorted.
“I remember five minutes seemed like a long time when I was at that age,” they writes, “but kneeling against a wall for an entire hour … that should be reported.”
Others advised that if she had her time again, she might be wise not to raise her with her mother, for fear that the child might be punished further. Instead, they suggested to be linked to children’s protection services.
The Australian Institute of Family Studies supports this approach, advising that people should maintain the confidentiality of children who detect cases of abuse and not face the person causing harm.
They recommend reporting any concern to the relevant authorities and any “people needed” involved in their care.
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