DOS and Decision Dunities include avoidance of ‘Chop-A-Dump’ behavior

Complete vapor forward?

Venting tends to get a bad rap, given that it is associated with anger and negative energy. But mental health experts believe it is also necessary – as long as it is done properly.

“Venting is what I call by releasing steam because, by defining, it is a physical term where you have pressure on a system, so you release it,” told the psychiatrist Dr. Judith Jones Post.

“The problem with only venting is that, yes, it feels good immediately, but it does not create a solution. And also when you turn on the wrong person, you are simply transferring stress to another individual.”

That is why, in her new book “High Functioning”, it provides a simple deception sheet – a manual of ventilation courtesy, if you want – describing “do and will not” fade.

Ask first

“When you turn on, you want to look for consent,” she said.

It means not looking for ambush for your barista, your dog’s dog, or the collaborator who made the mistake of asking, “How are you going?”

Don’t be thrown emotionally

Dr. Judith warns against what she calls “Chop-A-Dump” behavior-downloading your emotional luggage without checking if the other person can actually handle it.

Do not charge your children

“You want to be aware of the power hierarchy, so you don’t necessarily want to light up to people who are considered in a dynamic of lower power than you,” she said.

This includes your children, even if they say they want to help.

“Your kids will hear you, but they’ll worry about you when you get out of the room,” she said.

“Even if they say,” Oh, I want to hear you “, they may want to feel close to you,” she added, “but what you are doing is you are creating stress for them because they worry about you.”

Or your employees

Even if you are friends, it is important to keep in mind that there is also a hierarchy of power.

“You do not necessarily want to traumatize employees because they have to answer you. They don’t want to be fired by the boss,” she said.

Check yourself before you destroy someone else

“You want to make sure you are in a state where you are not just downloading and telling everyone your business,” advised Dr. Judith.

“You want to consider if, at that moment you are arranged.”

Try to settle first

In other words, get a beat. Breath. Go for a walk. Scream on a pillow. Whatever help.

“You may want to make some of the argumentation techniques in my book before choosing one or two people you can trust,” she said.

So yes, the complaint can be cataract, but as a good bathroom, ventilation should come with security protocols.

Your stress is not toxic – until you pass it.